If I’m going to be 100% honest, I need to say that being a Stay at Home mom was never my dream. Please do not misinterpret what I’m saying. I love my kids more than anything in this world. But there are days when I wish I could work. I’ve always worked, ever since I was old enough to get a job and I love it! I love contributing to my families financial wellness and having that time away from the house doing something that doesn’t involve diapers or SpongeBob. Now why can’t I is what you are probably wondering…well about three years ago my husband and I moved to a small farming community in Eastern Colorado and unfortunately it would cost us more in Daycare costs than what would be worth me working for. So here I sit waiting (patiently) until all of my littles are in school. I have about five more years of waiting and I’m ok with that. I just get extremely antsy and lonely. Once again I ask that the previous statement not be taken the wrong way….I know I am not alone during the day (two out of four kiddos are still at home) but having no adult interaction really kills me. There’s another question…Why don’t I have other Mom friends to interact with…well I haven’t found anyone that I feel that I truly click with. I have always had a hard time finding friends that I can truly click with, that get my twisted sense of humor and understand that I am not June Cleaver. I am not the perfect mother and I never will be. I’ve had a handful of really good friends but unfortunately I do not get back to our home town to visit with them as often as I would like. I would also call but talking on the phone with me when my kids are awake is like talking to someone with ADD and Tourettes. I think writing this is actually more depressing than it is in my head. So on the light side of this, I will (hopefully) be able to sign up for online classes to begin my journey towards becoming an IBCLC (International Board Certified Lactation Consultant) and by the time my youngest is in Preschool I’ll be ready to take the exam. I guess this will conclude my rant for the day…thanks for listening….reading.
I have this collection of boxes to put buttons, needles and various other crafting supplies in. Well, my very curious two year old got one of the empty ones and the fun began.
First it was a purse then a hat. Next, it became a podium for a singing act.
I went to go lay the baby down for a nap and I hear screaming. “Mommy I’m stuck!!!”
I run to the kitchen, totally freaked out and I find this…
They had busted the bottom out of the box and decided it was a necklace. Poor guy had to wait until Daddy got home because I only had child safety scissors and they would not cut through the thick cardboard. He only had to wait ten minutes for my husband but my ten year old took total advantage of this and called him “birdbath” the entire time.
My daughter is going to be three in November and she FINALLY seems interested in using the potty (just like a Mom to using the word ‘potty’ when talking to adults). My two oldest are out of town this week so I’ve decided there’s no time like the present. I guess you could say that I’m writing this post just as much for myself as I am for you all.
In this post we’ll cover tips on how to tell if your LO is ready, how to go about it and what to do WHEN there’s an accident. Many littles will show an interest in using the toilet by age 2 but some may not until ages 2 1/2 or older. There are some tell tale signs that he or she may be ready such as:
- She is interested in the toilet and wearing underwear.
- He can follow and understand basic instructions.
- Your Little one has his or her own signs that they need to go (squatting, hiding etc)
- She stays dry for two or more hours in the day.
- He doesn’t like to have a soiled diaper and will ask to be changed.
- She can pull her pants up and down independently.
If you answered yes to most of the questions above then full speed ahead! If not, you may want to put those underoos back in the drawer. If you decide that it is time to push forward with getting your little one out of diapers here are some general guidelines on how to get started:
- Don’t start potty training right before or right after a major life change such as moving or a new baby
- Set his or her potty chair out in the open (well kind of) to get him used to seeing it.
- Schedule potty times. With my oldest son, I would take him every thirty minutes to try. With boys you may want to start him off sitting to urinate and gradually move to standing. Even if he or she doesn’t go when they are sitting on the potty, always offer praise for trying.
- Get them to the potty as quickly as you can. As soon as you see their “signs”, take and sit them on the potty. Always teach little girls to carefully wipe from front to back as to keep bacteria from the rectum out of the vagina.
- Offer your little one an incentive for going. Whether it be a sticker on a sticker chart or I’ve even heard of parents using M&Ms.
- Don’t give yourself the option of backing out, get rid of the diapers!!!
- Sleep can be challenging when your little one starts using the restroom. You can use a disposable bed mat (or reusable, but with my kids I found that the washable ones made them very hot while they were sleeping) or invest in nighttime training pants.
- Know when to back off. If it has been more than two weeks and your little guy or girl is still hesitant to go, maybe it’s best to give them some more time.
Ok now take a deep breath, accidents are going to happen. You can try to stop them before they happen by reminding your little one to use the restroom often. WHEN an accident does happen (and it will) just stay calm. It is embarrassing enough to mess on yourself (little ones get embarrassed too) without having someone scold or down talk you as well. Also be prepared, I can’t stress enough that little kids in “training” will have accidents. Always be sure to carry wipes and a change of clothes for them to change into.
Here I am really tap, tap, tapping away like I really know what I’m talking about when my daughter (first time in undies today) walks into the room with a mystery substance on her hand….definitely an “Is it poop or chocolate?” moment (Baby Mama Movie reference). Ugh, it’s poop. Off to the bath tub and to sanitize ANYTHING she may have touched. 😦 Thanks for reading!
Boy things sure have changed since kid #1 to kid #4. With my oldest we played ALL THE TIME when I wasn’t at work or school. I had a great balance of motherhood, work and play. Fast forward to now (three kids later) and it feels like my days fly by so quickly that by the end I realize I didn’t play nearly as much as I should have.
I feel really sorry for my oldest (whom I admit I don’t hug enough BUT I do tell him I love him many times throughout the day). I’ve lost touch with how to play on his level, I’m not a gamer and don’t understand half of the ones he plays anyway. We do go on walks together everyday and if we can’t I try to make it a point to talk to him about what is going on in his everyday life.
Now before hundreds of other moms jump on my case, let me say that I make an effort to send time with my babies as much as I can during the day. I go to school parties and events and I make sure they’re involved in extracurricular activities. We go outside and spend time in the pool as well.
I make sure that they have activities for them to do and that they know their boundaries.
I guess my real problem is that I feel time is passing way too quickly and that I can’t spend equal, quality time with each of my children. I sometimes wish life had a pause button and that I could take in each moment with them…
How many kids do you have? How do you make sure to spend quality time with each?